She said, “What do you talk about at your mass or the thing that you do?”
I said, “Recently,” I just tossed it out again, “I’ve been talking about divorce.”
When I said that, she got a strange look on her face and she said, “Divorce?! That will <blank> up your life.” She said, “I left my husband ten years ago, and someone should have taken my <blank> and tied me to a tree and beat the <blank> out of me.”
I could just feel the hurt, and I experienced some of the venom. She said, “You know what,” she said, “My daughter called me just a couple days ago. And she said, ‘Mom, our family isn’t normal. You’re here; dad is over there. Everything is totally screwed up.’ ”
And then she looked at me and said, “You know what? My daughter was right.”
And then she said, “When you talk about divorce, you tell people the grass is never greener. And you tell these couples, these husbands and wives to look past the now.”
Wow! Powerful words from a pagan.
I was thinking, “What if we could go back ten years ago in that lady’s marriage? What if we could go back to when she had her hands on the hardware of the door? And what if we could go back and see what pushed her into the door and through the door of divorce?” That would be interesting. I could tell you, though, what did it.
I’ve talked to enough people; I’ve done enough marital counseling; I’ve read enough books. I can tell you what led her to divorce. In fact, these predictors pretty much lead every couple through the door of divorce. And what’s so interesting about it is that recently I sat down and had a conversation with a relational expert about some of these things. And I want you to join our conversation and listen very, very carefully to what this guy has to say.